Designing a Preventive Model of Marital Conflict Based on the Functioning of Non-Conflicted Couples in the Context of Conflict with the Family of Origin and In-Laws

Abstract

Introduction and Aim: Conflict with the family of origin and in-laws is considered one of the major threats to marital stability and relationship quality. Nevertheless, some couples successfully maintain healthy and satisfying marriages despite experiencing such family-related tensions. The present study aimed to develop a preventive model of marital conflict based on the experiences and functioning of non-conflicted couples who effectively managed conflicts involving their own families or their spouses’ families.

Methodology: This qualitative study was conducted using the grounded theory approach of Strauss and Corbin. The study population consisted of non-conflicted couples residing in Shiraz and family counseling professionals during 2024–2025. Participants were selected through purposive and snowball sampling until theoretical saturation was achieved. Eighteen participants, including 14 couples and 4 family counselors, took part in semi-structured interviews. Data were analyzed through open, axial, and selective coding procedures.

Findings: Data analysis resulted in the identification of seven core components: effective communication skills, emotional and cognitive management, moral and spiritual values, flexibility and adaptability, marital support and solidarity, healthy family boundary-setting, and conscious partner selection with psychological maturity. These components emerged from 14 subthemes and numerous initial codes and were integrated into a comprehensive conceptual framework. The findings indicated that these factors function as protective mechanisms that prevent family-related tensions from escalating into marital conflicts and contribute to marital cohesion, satisfaction, and stability.

Conclusion: The findings suggest that preventing marital conflict in the presence of family-related challenges depends less on eliminating external stressors and more on couples’ abilities to communicate effectively, regulate emotions, establish healthy boundaries, and uphold moral and spiritual values. The proposed model provides a culturally grounded framework that can be applied in premarital education, family counseling, and preventive marital interventions.